In Feng Shui terms, your front door, your bedroom and the siting of your cooker are the 3 most important considerations. We spend between a quarter and a third of our lives in the bedroom, re-charging our batteries in an environment that needs to be safe, secure and intimate. Family rooms, kitchens and playrooms are active spaces -Yang whereas where we sleep needs to be fundamentally more Yin and relaxing. The best position for the main bedroom is furthest away from the front door, preferably diagonally opposite the entrance also. On a subliminal level, this gives you the extra feeling of protection, stability and security. The worst possible scenario is to have your bedroom facing or close to the front door.
To set the tone for a harmonious relationship, an equal sided room is best with no sectors missing. If you have an adjacent toilet or bathroom, always make sure that this doorway is closed when you are asleep. Bedrooms positioned above garages are regarded as a Feng Shui "no, no" as the dead space below you gives the bedroom a lack of support.
How you decorate and furnish your bedroom
is purely personal but there are a few considerations regarding colour from a Feng Shui point of view. Green has a very calming effect; blue while it is relaxing can be a little too cool. The colour yellow is very stimulating for the mind and you may become too restless or spend hours and hours at night reading. Peach coloured walls and furnishings are said to encourage affairs! All shades of red, including pink and salmon encourage romance. Too much red will bring too much fire (Yang) into the space; small amounts can be used to bring the fire of passion into your life. These could include red or pink lampshades, rugs, photo frames or candles.
The most important feature of the bedroom needs to be the bed itself. Firstly, consider the position of the bed relative to the door. Avoid a situation where the door opens directly onto your bed or where you sleep, directly opposite to the door. Try to position your bed as far from the door as possible but at the same time with a good view of the door from where you sleep.
To bring stability into your relationship
, make sure that the bed itself is stable. Make sure that the bed has a good strong headboard to protect your Chi while you sleep and avoid sleeping with your head facing an open window, as this will drain away your Chi as you sleep. Sleeping directly on the floor is not ideal, as it does not allow Chi to circulate below you.
The gap between your mattress and the floor needs to be kept clear
- this is definitely a clutter free zone! Handy though they may be, storage units under your bed are less than ideal. They have the potential to disturb your sleep and limit the charge of Yin force (Earth force) to re-charge you while you sleep. Double-check the age and quality of your mattress and futon. Did you purchase it from new? Did you buy it in a jumble sale? Did someone die in it? Did it belong to your ex? Mattresses have the habit of absorbing Chi and need to be replaced regularly, turned regularly and given a good few hours in the sunshine every few months. If your mattress or futon is old or second hand, get rid of it now!
Lying on top of your bed, have a look above you to see what is possibly raining down on you. Avoid sleeping under shelves heavily laden with books and old magazines, sleeping in an alcove with cupboards above your head full of old books is also not ideal. Overhead electrical devices such as lights and fans need to be positioned away from your bed. A skylight above your bed will allow your Chi to dissipate while you sleep. Overhead beams and their heavy resonance of Chi are likely to cause you restlessness and discomfort as well. They can be made to disappear by painting them the same colour as the ceiling, installing a false ceiling or if you live in a wonderful Tudor period house, consider having a four poster bed with a canopy to protect you from the overhead beams while you sleep.
Mirrors in a bedroom can also be a Feng Shui nightmare. They should be avoided if they can reflect your image while you are asleep as this effect can also drain you. Round and oval shaped mirrors in bedrooms are ideal, full length dressing mirrors can be cleverly concealed inside a wardrobe.
Look around your room for potential sources of disturbing electrical currents from radios, digital clocks, television or personal computer. Ideally, the personal computer should be banished to another part of your home along with the recharging device for a portable telephone. Radios, clocks, electric radios, clocks and televisions need to be as far as possible away from you while you sleep.
As with any other room in your home, check the position of where you sleep for any cutting Chi
that may be aimed at you while you are asleep from the corners of cupboards, bedside tables, chests of drawers, mantlepieces and fireplaces. Round off any sharp edges and soften them with some kind of cover or drape.
Create a relaxing yet warm atmosphere in the bedroom
through different forms of lighting. Experiment until you find a solution that is both practical and asethetically pleasing. A good reading light can also be balanced by the more romantic feel of candlelight as well. Check the South Western sector of your bedroom as this relates to relationships. Avoid putting your dirty linen basket in this section! Current, happy photographs of your and your partner and any kind of symbolism of relationship in this sector is ideal.
On waking, it can be a great motivation to be greeted by a photograph or poster or painting on the wall ahead of you. Think of a special landscape perhaps that has inspired you in your life. It needs to be an image that is both tranquil, uplifting and epitomises your journey in life. Every morning we wake up to new possibilities - the image in front of you needs to bear this out rather than a blank wall or an image of struggle. To really get your day off to a good start, always remember to make your bed! Leaving behind a trail of clothing that didn't make it to the laundry basket and an unfinished bed, all has the possibility to get you off to an incomplete and messy start in the morning.